Goals vs. Desires

"You have complete control over the outcome of your goals. The same is not true about your desires." Carolina Reyes

While competing for Miss International, I had the privilege to hear Eddie Peterson give a great keynote speech during our dinner. One of the important things that I carried with me was the difference between goals and desires. Knowing this key differentiator should highly impact the way you view and prepare for pageants.

A goal is something we have complete control over. We have the power to initiate, work toward and ultimately determine whether we will reach the goal or not. When it comes to goals, if you put your mind to it and persevere, you can and will achieve the goal you set. No question.  
This is the very reason why winning a pageant cannot be a goal.
Winning a pageant is not a goal, it’s a desire. The difference is the outcome of any pageant is completely out of your hands and onto the judges.
You can believe in yourself, prepare extensively so you know with conviction you are the best version of yourself when you complete, but if the judges did not see you as or feel that you are the winner, there is nothing you can do about it. It doesn’t mean you weren’t  good enough or didn’t work hard enough – all it means is that particular outcome wasn’t on the path to your destiny at this time.
It is important to remember the difference of the two because you cannot beat yourself up over something that you ultimately have no control over. Whether it’s winning a pageant or vying for that new job - you must look at these desires and keep in mind that if you do not achieve it, there is probably something waiting in your future that is better suited for you and on the path to your destiny.
It also means it’s very important to cultivate and train yourself to have the right mindset when you enter your pageant so you are better able to focus on each phase of competition, have fun with the process, don’t take things personally and are at peace the entire time and with the outcome. If you need help with that aspect, just let me know and I would be more than happy to help!
Until next time True Beauties!

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